I’ve been thinking lately. Hold on tight in case I go down the rabbit hole with this one. Read on at your own risk…
“I knew who I was this morning, but I’ve changed a few times since then” ~Lewis Carroll
The other day a friend and I were talking about criticism. How to absorb it in a way that allows you to grow instead of letting the words form a thick fog that creeps into your confidence and pollutes your self-worth. Dramatic I know, but it is a delicate line. People tend to either deny any fault or let the punches bruise them until they break.
“Learn how to take criticism seriously, but not personally.” ~Hillary Clinton
I think the most important thing you can do in life is figure out what matters, sift through the compliments, criticism, successes, failures, friendships, and relationships to find the truth that you need to build upon. Figure out what is worth holding on to and what needs to be let go.
So like I said, I’ve been thinking lately, about what matters. Here’s the recent list drifting through my mind…
- Writing original thoughtful blog posts matter, the amount of people reading is not as important.
- Trying to make healthy colorful recipes with beautiful pictures to share with you matters. Exact measurements, flawless grammar, and perfect lighting- not as important.
- Waking up, and getting out the door for a quick run each morning to move my body and clear my mind matters. Speed and long distances do not matter.
- Eating healthy, enjoying food, and loving my body matters. The number on the scale is not important.
- Sending a thoughtful email to a friend going through a rough patch matters. Negative digs and hurtful comments from others do not matter.
- Spending time with my family at the beach matters. Getting behind on emails and work as a result is not too important.
- Listening and accepting others point of view matters. Always being right does not matter.
“Any fool can know. The point is to understand” ~Albert Einstein
- Being honest, having integrity, and working hard matters. Making mistakes is not important.
These are just a few examples relevant to me. Sure, fast runs make me happy, and everyone loves beautiful pictures. Hurtful comments will sting and I often beat myself up over mistakes, but these things do not matter. Not in the long run. Dwelling on them won’t help me grow into the person I want to become or help me appreciate the present moment while I have it. These things are heavy and the weight is draining. Understanding that we can let things go is so important.